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Charitable Giving – Part 1

Did you know that charitable giving increases at this time of year? Indeed, about 40 percent of all charitable donations in the U.S. are made in December. For many charities, end-of-year fundraising is the difference between a successful year and financial hard times. But who is doing the giving? Many think that the majority of all charitable donations are made by the ultra wealthy (think Bill Gates and Sam Walton), big foundations, or prosperous companies trying to increase their tax deductions. In reality, of the more than $300 billion that Americans give to charities every year, only 15% comes from foundation grants and 6% from corporations. The rest – nearly 80 cents of every dollar — is given by individuals. Yet, it’s not primarily by the people you’d most expect.

Who does give to charity? If you think that social class would be a straightforward predictor of charitable generosity, think again. Yes, it does stand to reason that the more wealthy a person is, the more they have to give and the less risky it is to give away some of that wealth. By the same token, the poorer a person is, the less they have to give and the more precarious it is to give some of that away. Therefore, logic dictates that the mega rich should be giving far more to charities than those nearest to the poverty line. Likewise, one would think that people living in the most affluent and liberal states would be more likely to give to charity than those in conservative and poorer states. However, the reality about charitable giving – in the U.S. and abroad – would probably surprise most people. It’s not what you’d expect.
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A Good Time To Do Good

There is no shortage of blessings for which we should express appreciation. Solid health. Supportive spouse. Loving family. Long-time friends. Thriving business. Great success. Acclaim. Good fortune. It turns out that giving thanks is good not only for the people receiving that appreciation (after all, it feels good to be told “thank you”) but also for the person expressing gratitude. In fact, gratitude seems to work like a “booster shot” for relationships. This goes for relationships at work as well. An employee expressing gratitude for a boss’ generosity makes both the boss and employee feel better. The same is true for a boss expressing appreciation for an employee’s hard work. Both boss and employee feel better. Giving thanks — the actual act of expressing it — is mutually beneficial.

People should take time to count blessings and be thankful every day. Indeed, taking it even a step further, perhaps the best way to show genuine gratitude for abundant blessings is to pay it forward by doing good and being the good we want to see in the world. It may be that the best way to show real appreciation for blessings and kindness is to be a blessing and show kindness to others…. and give others reasons to also be grateful. That would complete the circle of gratitude. And, it turns out that this also could also be good not just for the recipients but for the do-gooders too! Continue reading

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Time Matters

Every business on the planet would like to improve its use of time. As the saying goes, time is money. Better time management means more profits. It is therefore understandable that businesses — which constantly strive to be ever more profitable — are obsessed with time. Saving time. Managing time. Not wasting time. It especially makes sense given that time is the one truly finite resource. A company can hire more staff. It can buy more equipment. It can till or mine more raw materials or recycle old materials. However, no company can make a day longer… or recycle a minute…. or find a new source of time. Once a moment is gone, that moment can never be regained. Scarcity is what makes time so precious.
Managers from Boston to Beijing and from San Francisco to Singapore want employees to better their manage time. CFOs and efficiency engineers crunch every number related to and study every aspect of time management. Called ergonomics, they study their staff’s use of time, calculating how long each task should take and analyzing how each task can be done faster. Employing logistics, execs estimate the time it takes to move a certain volume of products from point A to point B and focus on how to reduce that time as much as possible. Businesses relentlessly measure, count and calculate and apply time to every workplace activity and process. Likewise professionals strive to manage their own time. Just how well business owners, managers, execs and professionals manage time can have a big impact on their success. Continue reading

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Self-Talk Your Way to Success

The schoolyard saying that “Sticks and stones can break my bones, but words can never harm me” is untrue. Words can do damage. Criticism hurts. Disapproving remarks and belittling comments can injure a person’s sense of self worth. Ironically, this is often most true of the talk coming from within. Every person has inner monologues with themselves. Psychologists commonly refer to this as self-talk, and there are different kinds of self-talk. Among other things, through self-talk we provide ourselves with instructions, opinions and evaluations on what we are doing as we are doing it.

We all self-talk, but sometimes that internal talk can be very harsh and unforgiving. Perhaps too often, we make ourselves the bulls-eye of our own condemnation, which is a pretty easy target. We flog ourselves for our own missteps and bad choices. We rub our own noses in our mistakes. That inner voice can be the most brutal heckler of all, and those negative internal words can actually be detrimental. Indeed, psychologists are finding that a person’s inner voice is actually quite powerful… even more than external voices. When we allow negative self-talk, we tear down our own self esteem. This has been found to have a very real impact on our future actions and success. However, when that inner voice is positive and affirming, then it can be an equally powerful motivator and coach. In fact, research is showing that deliberately engaging the inner voice in positive affirmations can help one change one’s own behavior, learn new skills and achieve success. So how does it work? And why? Continue reading

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Boost Your Brain to Extend Your Career

There is one thing that all people – from entry level employees to top leaders in every profession and occupation – have in common. Every person is getting older. It is generally accepted that with age comes deterioration. By middle age, there is the appearance of gray hair, age spots and wrinkles. On the inside, the deterioration is less visible but possibly more profound. Inflammation causes stiff joints. Brain cells deteriorate. This affects memory, communication, language, ability to focus and pay attention, reasoning and judgment, and visual perception. Over time, such mental wear-and-tear can profoundly impact workplace productivity, safety, creativity, interpersonal skills and more.

In a nation that is increasingly getting older – with 40% of the U.S.’s 318 Million people now aged 45 or older — what can companies to do about its aging workforce? What is a person to do to stay productive and valuable at work? Until recently, it was believed that mental deterioration was inevitable with age. However, scientists are now discovering that this is simply not true. The human brain has an astonishing ability to adapt and change—even into old age. This ability is known as neuroplasticity. With the right stimulation, the human brain can form new neural pathways, alter existing connections, and adapt and react in ever-changing ways… at any age. In fact, the brain’s incredible ability to reshape itself even holds true when it comes to learning and memory. People can harness the natural power of neuroplasticity to increase cognitive abilities, enhance the ability to learn new information, and improve memory. Here are some top tips to boost brain power and extend the value and productivity of employees…. of all ages. Continue reading

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Agreeable, Disagreeble and the Ability to Disagree

Most character traits can be a quality or a flaw, depending on the situation or circumstances. A coworker who is very detail-oriented might also be considered nitpicky or persnickety. An employee who is very communicative can also be perceived as being a chatty Cathy. A boss who is very direct might also be seen as aggressive or blunt. What is seen as a positive trait in one situation could just as easily be viewed as a personality failing in another situation. The truth is that every characteristic – even the negative ones — probably has value at the right time, place or in moderation but might also be problematic when applied in excess or in the wrong situation.

Take, for example, openness to new experience. Openness distinguishes imaginative, creative people from down-to-earth, conventional people. Open people tend to be intellectually curious, appreciative of art, and sensitive to beauty. They tend to be more aware of their feelings as compared to closed-minded people. They also tend to think and act in individualistic and nonconforming ways. Intellectuals tend to typically be open to new experiences. Openness is often perceived as the healthier and more mature way of being. However, openness and closed-mindedness are useful in different environments. While openness may serve a professor well, research has shown that closed-minded thinking is tied to superior job performance for police officers, salespeople, and a number of service occupations. In the right job or situation, openness can actually be a flaw and closed-mindedness can be a quality.

What about agreeableness? It is hard to imagine how being agreeable could ever be considered a flaw. Employers go out of their way when recruiting new employees to find individuals that are agreeable and will “go along to get along” with others in the organization. Reference checks often focus less on validating the veracity of factual information and more on whether the person was agreeable and cooperative. While being agreeable is generally considered a quality, there are situations where it can be a flaw. Just as there are situations that call for being agreeable, there are also times and places that call for being able to disagree. . Of course, that’s not the same as being disagreeable. Continue reading

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On Your Mark. Get Set. Start.

When a runner is getting ready to run a race – whether a sprint or a marathon — the runner typically has a routine or series of actions to prepare for that race. There is, of course, a lot of conditioning leading up to race day. A couple of hours before the start, a runner might pop a few Advil and drink a lot of water. He might eat a hearty breakfast to provide the body with adequate fuel. Then shortly before the start, he might check the laces on his running shoes. He might also do a lot of stretching and warm-up exercises. When the race is about to start, the runner will probably line up at the starting line, get into a running position, and listen for the countdown, whistle or buzzer that signals to go. Each of those actions work as tiny cues to get the body’s adrenaline pumping and prime the runner to go swiftly from inertia to movement.

Mark Twain once said that the secret of getting ahead is just getting started. Going from inaction to action is probably the hardest part of getting just about anything done. It takes the most energy to go from total inactivity to motion – whether that motion is simply thinking through a problem or physically acting on it. A major factor in procrastination is simply the inability to start. Once the person begins, getting a project, task or job done becomes significantly easier. If starting is the hardest part of any job, then perhaps one key to success is simply in identifying ways to help launch the starting process Continue reading

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Do Less: Eight Things to Give Up – Part 2

There are many things people know they should give up because it’s just plain bad for them. Putting too much salt in food. Smoking cigarettes. Texting and driving. Drinking alcoholic beverages in excess. Getting sunburned often. Then there are a number of things people do that they think are perfectly fine but it turns out they aren’t. Chewing ice (which is bad for teeth). Protecting clothes using mothballs (which are stuffed with pesticides that are toxic and are ingested when smelled). Drinking skim milk instead of full-fat milk (which is fortified with powdered milk that oxidizes cholesterol and causes plaque buildup in arteries and increases the chance of a heart attack). Using a computer for more than three continuous hours a day (because it causes carpel tunnel syndrome, impacts posture, strains eyes, and – because of being increasingly sedentary – increases the propensity for heart disease).

Then there are things that people do professionally that they suspect are not good, but they do them anyway. In fact, deep down, most people know these behaviors negatively impact success. Yet, they do them anyway because they don’t truly realize just how harmful these behaviors can be. These are thought processes and actions that sink careers. There is much to be said about doing these things less in order to thrive more. Last week we looked at four such behaviors and thought processes to stop. Here are four more to give up. Continue reading

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Do Less: Eight Things to Give Up – Part 1

We are forever reading and hearing about the things we should do more. Exercise more. Eat more healthily. Walk more. Laugh more. Read more. At home and at work, there are evermore demands. Do. Do. Do more. Well, here’s a thought. Perhaps instead of doing more, we should be doing less?

When it comes to business and career, there are thoughts and behaviors we would be well advised to do less. In fact, what sets high achievers apart from others is not that they do a lot, but rather that they don’t do a lot. The most successful people have mastered the art of filtering. They eliminate unproductive thoughts and behaviors and focus only on valuable activities that produce maximum results. They cut away things that are distracting or destructive. The go-getters and rainmakers of the world (in every profession and occupation) strip away most time-wasting, mentally-depleting activities and thought processes that diminish, delay or drain productivity and reduce accomplishments.

So for a change, we recommend not adding to your list of things to do, but rather embracing a list of things to stop doing. That’s right. Do less! Give up these eight thought-process and behaviors and see what happens. Continue reading

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Travel Etiquette: Dos, Don’ts, and Super Don’ts

The solstice — which heralds the beginning of summer in the Northern Hemisphere – officially begins on June 21st this year. In addition to hot weather, summer also ushers in the end of the K-12 school year and summer break for colleges and universities. It is the time of year when families and professionals alike take vacations. And it is also the time of year when many professional associations hold business conferences. All in all, it makes for a very busy travel period. That is why, in addition to packing sunscreen and sunglasses, travelers should also make sure to pack their best manners and patience. Travel can be daunting and it can also bring out the worst in people. Without a huge supply of good graces and respect for others, one person’s bad manners can ruin someone else’s good time or worse.

Case in point. It was a year ago that the government of China felt compelled to issue a set of official conventions to be followed by Chinese citizens when traveling. The guidelines were posted on the Chinese central government’s website. Behaviors that the Chinese government was hoping to eradicate amongst Chinese travelers included “spitting, littering, cutting in lines and defacing historic treasures”. What prompted this edict was the behavior exhibited by one 15-year old Chinese tourist visiting Egypt last year who carved his name into a 3500 year old Egyptian artifact/relic. In addition to causing an international uproar, the teenager’s rude behavior was harshly rebuked by his own people.

All would do well – whether traveling for business or pleasure – to follow well-established protocol for what is and is not socially acceptable behavior when going out into the world. Here are a few tips and cues to keep in mind (and share with others) when traveling…. And don’t assume you know better. While everyone agrees that bad manners are annoying or offensive, sometimes we don’t realize it may be us. Read on to ensure you don’t offend others! Continue reading

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